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      Jul 07, 2017 • 4 min read

      Confessions of a Crybaby

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      I am a crybaby. Sometimes I cry when I’m inspired or sad. Sometimes I cry from disappointment or joy. I cried when my high school football team won the state championship. I even cried during an episode of Hannah Montana that I watched with my daughter.

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      I’m sensitive and a lot of things make me cry, especially the things I care deeply about. Tears are an expression of how I feel, and I don’t hold them back. In fact, I recently presented a leadership award to a nine year-old athlete with tears in my eyes. I had to stop a few times during my speech to settle my voice. I am happy to report that during the speech, not one person attending shouted, “Suck it up, big boy. There’s no crying in award presentations!”

      Why is it that when young athletes cry during sports, they are labeled “crybabies”? When a kid cries, it seems to be some horrible indication of weakness. What I find most surprising is that parents are usually the ones that get the most upset and embarrassed when their child cries.

      We spend countless hours coaching and encouraging our kids to work hard and give it their all. Before games, we preach about having fun, making an effort and believing in themselves. It’s a fact of life that things don’t always go the way we plan. We will all experience the pain of failure. We won’t always make the tackle or record the strikeout. Throughout our lives, reality will often fall short of expectations regardless of preparation or how much we believe in ourselves.

      Why cry? Because it hurts!

      I have coached young athletes between five and 12 years old for many years. Each season I have been blessed with a few kids who work so hard and care so much that they cry when they fall short of what they expect of themselves. Here is a conversation I had with our pitcher after he hit two batters and allowed five runs in one inning. To set the stage, our pitcher came into the dugout in tears. His father immediately gave him a stern talking to and essentially, if not literally, told him to “suck it up.” I went over and sat next him on the bench.

      Me: “Are you OK?”

      Pitcher: (Sobbing loudly)

      Me: “Are you tired of hearing that there is no crying in baseball?”

      Pitcher: (Sobbing slowed)

      Me: “What would you say if I told you that’s a lie? There is crying in baseball. After all, there’s crying in life, right? I cry sometimes myself and I’m a tough old man.”

      Coach Consoling AthletePitcher: (sobbing stopped and he looked directly into my eyes)

      Me: “When you really care about something, and it doesn’t work out, it’s OK to cry. It shows how much you care. One of the things I like most about you is how much you care. Don’t ever stop caring that much about baseball and what you have to offer your team. Are you OK?”

      Pitcher: “Yes, sir.”

      Me: “You can keep crying if you have to, but I need you to finish it up soon because we need you. The game is not over, and your team needs you.”

      I’ve had similar conversations with kids from dozens of teams and in dozens of situations. After each conversation the child felt accepted and understood, which enabled him or her to accept, own and grow from his or her failure and frustration instead of hiding because of the fear of ridicule. Failures can be the signposts on our journey to success if we read them, understand them and take action. Pretending failures don’t matter and bottling up emotions is not the way to build strong and emotionally balanced kids.

      I am a crybaby because I care…just like the kids I get to coach.

      Brad Jubin is a volunteer youth coach in Peachtree City, GA. Together with his family, Brad founded www.APIVEO.com. APIVEO (Always Play IV Each Other) is a free resource that leverages Brad’s personal experiences as a youth coach to help other coaches teach kids about leadership and character through a series of fun and engaging lessons. For more thoughts on youth sports from Brad Jubin, be sure to check out our podcast interview with him, “Developing Leaders in Youth Sports.”


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